Being asked to give a speech at the wedding of a loved one is not only an amazing honor – it can also be a big responsibility. Typically at a wedding reception the maid of honor, best man and possibly the parents of the bride or groom are asked to speak on behalf of the newlyweds.


Giving a speech can be nerve wracking, especially if, like most people, you’re not necessarily overjoyed by the prospect of public speaking. What do you say? How can you express your happiness for the couple? How do you remain composed speaking in front of so many people? To help calm your nerves, we’ll give you several tips to help you get started in creating a memorable and meaningful speech.


  1. Convey your relationship to the happy couple. Some wedding guests may not know what significant role you’ve played in the bride or groom’s life. Let them know that you’re the brother of the groom or the bride’s college roommate and best friend.
  2. It’s always a good idea to show gratitude to whoever is hosting the wedding – whether it’s the happy couple themselves or their parents. Let them know that you’re thankful to be a part of the beautiful celebration.
  3. Sharing a personal story or memory shared with the bride or groom is a great way to keep wedding guests engaged and interested.
  4. Everyone loves to hear compliments. Share something you admire and love about the couple. Give wedding guests some insight into why the newlyweds are absolutely perfect for each other.
  5. Conclude your speech on a positive note. Offer a wish or a toast to a life filled with happiness for the couple – this can be a traditional blessing or a humorous anecdote.
  6. Always practice before the big day. Taking time to practice your wedding speech before the time comes to deliver it at the reception will help you look and feel more comfortable. This will also give you a chance to correct run-on sentences and possible phrases that could trip you up.


You’ve been asked to give a speech because you mean a great deal to the newlywed couple. Take this as a few moments to show them how much they mean to you and how happy you are for them. Whether you’re a public speaking pro or not, follow these tips and tricks and you’ll deliver a great wedding speech.